What do I tell the community about autism?
By Lisa Ackerman
Autism is hard to describe to someone whose life has not been personally affected by it (i.e. their own child, sibling, niece, nephew, neighbor, best friend’s child, etc.) When to you talk to someone about autism that is directly “unaffected” they already have a vision in their mind. The most famous, of course, is the Rainman movie featuring Dustin Hoffman. They could also have a quick glimpse of what it might be and think “that is what autism really is all about.”
At this point that glimpse could be:
– A child that cannot speak
– An individual that can speak but will only talk about what they are interested in….for hours regardless of whether an uninterested or interested party is present.
– A person that is sick from a myriad of issues (which could be immune, gastrointestinal, seizures or other co-morbid issues that affect many living with autism.) (1)
– An individual that is exhibiting self stimulatory behaviors (flapping, jumping, echolalia or behaviors you just don’t understand)
– A child that is running down the middle of the road, in traffic or other dangerous environments with no sense of safety or fear.
– An individual that has speech but cannot carry on a conversation
– A kid in the special needs classroom that requires an aide or helper
– An individual that has sensory issues with sound, touch, smell, or light
– A child that wants something they cannot eat and when told can’t have it tantrums for five hours
– A person with the desire to keep their schedule exactly the same way, everyday
– An individual that is self injurious or hurts others
– A child that is laughing when there is nothing funny
– A kid that is overactive all day and sleeps a few hours at a time, just to be overactive all over again
– An individual that has significant attention issues and or social skill deficits that affect their daily life
– The child at a party who is playing alone or covering their ears during any festivities or loud sounds
– A person you speak to but just cannot seem to reach
We have a saying in the autism community; “once you have met a person with autism you’ve met ONE person with autism.” These individuals are more different than similar, yet they have one label to describe them: autism.
Outside of the individual affected, it doesn’t even describe how the family is able to cope. What about marriages? I know my struggles, but many families live through so much for their kids that often the marriage suffers. In addition, autism is extremely expensive. We know TACA families spend on average $27,000 a year out of pocket to help their children. The annualized costs of autism are much more (2.)
What about siblings? Their lives are forever changed. Are they in line to care for a brother or sister once their parents are gone? (3, 4) What do they miss out on and gain during this experience?
I mostly think of those who are affected. What would I give to have the ability to have them live without pain, enable the ability to communicate to someone they love, learn from their environment, and just live to their fullest potential and dreams. Thinking about this is how I spend most of my waking hours.
Each year, TACA does what we can with a very small budget to help the over 31,000 families we serve. This weekend will be the 6th annual “Ante up for Autism”(4.) It is an incredible event. We have so many great special guests, donors, sponsors and friends come together to raise awareness and much needed support for TACA. My staff and volunteers work for months on this event. At the night of Ante up, I always look around, marvel at the wonderfully supportive people, and think about the families TACA serves. Then I think about the many families that could never afford a night out such as this or let alone find a willing babysitter.
How do I describe autism to these caring and generous community members without taking more than an hour? Each year, I struggle in writing my notes, it is so hard to select what to say. Most of the time I hold back tears trying to battle each of the emotions and images of those kids and adults we serve. It is extremely hard. My hope for the community is that they continue to help TACA, know autism is treatable but most of all, know that these individuals are worth fighting for. How do I find the words?
1) Biomedical and Autism http://www.tacanow.org/blog/biomedical-treatments-and-autism/
2) Annual cost of Autism http://www.tacanow.org/blog/the-annual-cost-of-autism/
3) A view from siblings
4) Ante up for Autism http://www.anteupforautism.com